Overcoming Wanting to Be with Someone

How to Stop Suffering Over Missing Someone


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Cindy and this client also cover:

  • Decisions – I thought I decided, but then my decision collapsed.
  • Love joy peace – is that feeling (love, joy, peace) our Awareness in the body?
  • Is it wise to ignore mind, thoughts?
  • We can’t be hurt, can’t hurt others: strong feeling of guilt in past relationship
  • The purpose of fear

Suicide, Love, Joy, and God

Radio Interview – Sept 15, 2014

WTWG 1050, Columbus, Mississippi, USA. (47 min.)

Enjoy this radio interview as Cindy and two other guests, including a minister, speak about the natures of love and joy. They cover the “levels” of love, material world object love or “happenstances,” and the true source of love. Cindy highlights how happenstance happiness, or object happiness, is temporary, while inner joy, peace, and love never sway, no matter what goes on in life. In this way, it is eternal and Divine. But the radio host asks… “Is the joy you speak about self-centred? Listen to her answer now.

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Ottawa Author tackles mental health problem with free workshops

Cindy-flowers-portrait_On September 4th the World Health Organization called suicide “a large public health problem.” And for good reason. More than 800,000 people each year worldwide die by suicide. In the span of three years, anti-depressant use rose 400% (Source: CDC). Suicide is the fifth leading cause of death among those aged 30-49 years in 2012 globally, and  second leading cause of death in the 15-29 year age group in 2012 globally. (Source: International Association of Suicide Prevention.)

Cindy Teevens is no stranger to suffering and suicide. Her father died by suicide, she overcame her own suicidal thoughts, and she later successfully intervened in a suicide in progress for a friend.

Her father’s suicide led her on a quest to find an end to suffering, and resulted in her being gifted “mind-blowing” joy and inner peace. She was overwhelmed with gratitude and a desire to share. Now her life’s work is to help others end the stress, anxiety, depression, and drug use before they lead to suicide.

Teevens has been writing about, speaking about, and facilitating inner peace since 2009, and now wants to work on a larger scale, to reach more people, faster. To do that, she’s launched a “Happiness 4 Humanity” Indiegogo campaign to raise money to make free public inner peace and happiness workshops across Ottawa a reality. “Ottawa is a pilot project,” she says. “We want to take it across Canada.” Continue reading

Suicide called ‘large public health problem’ by WHO

The recent suicides of Robin Williams and Simone Battle serve to highlight the public health problem plaguing our society today.

In fact, the World Health Organization (WHO) just announced it as such in this article. Now there are articles appearing with the idea that Robin’s suicide was “spontaneous” and not “premeditated” as if that somehow makes it better, or as if there is some version of suicide that is worse or better than another, or worse yet, that some suicidal people are worse than others.

People say he was making plans for upcoming projects and that he was “engaged.” The truth is that some suicides come from out of the blue for us; there are no warning signs. Perhaps some of the most intent people do the best job of hiding it. But what makes a person intent on suicide? Not sanity, and so the idea of suicide as a sane, premeditated act, is insane.

And on the other hand, simply because there were no warning signs seen does not mean that there weren’t any signs. Most often, the “invitations” along the way, as they are called, are missed. People miss them due to… Continue reading

Why Fighting to Feel Good Fails

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In this free audio, Cindy and the Client discuss:

  • Why Fighting to Feel Good Fails
  • What to do about troublesome thoughts
  • Where do thoughts come from?
  • What is “space” around a thought?
  • Not using your power of Interest
  • A non-relationship to thought
  • Doing not doing. The effortlessness of Being
  • The Client’s 6 week experience of peace and joy
  • Your Power of Discernment
  • How thoughts downward cycle
  • How the “You can achieve anything” mindset can result in miserable failure
  • The victim-hood of blame
  • Competition, the need to win
  • How to “get this experience of space again” and to “not to lose it”
  • The false “i” and the real You.

The Client says:

“There seemed to be something…other…which is not thought. Space around thought. What happened there, where does space go?” Continue reading

Pope Francis’ 10 Happiness Tips Mostly Miss the Mark

Today the Pope gave out his advice for being happy. Most of them are how to get along with others, which is more about the happiness lie than inner happiness. They are also very vague. (The Happiness Lie is the belief that things, people, or events make you happy or unhappy. Read more about it here.)

Below are the Pope’s ten tips translated from Spanish by the Catholic News Service, and my comments on them. Society is experiencing more and more suffering, as the rising stress, anxiety, depression, drug use, and suicide statistics show. If even our religious leaders and experts believe in the happiness lie (the idea that things, people, or events “make” us happy or unhappy), where will our mass ignorance continue to take us? In spite of that dire direction, I know that individuals can break free, and this is why I continually point to the confusion about the source and cause of happiness and pain. Continue reading

What is Your “Why”?

Today I saw a mother bird, desperate to feed her babies, attempting repeatedly to get to them.

Would she die of exhaustion trying to feed her babies, who would then die of starvation? Watch the video.


Until you are free, you need a “why” stronger than your attachment to free yourself.

Mother bird had a pretty big “why.” Several of them.

If she had a mind, on the 22nd try she may have thought, “I can’t get in,” believed it, and gave up. Whether or not birds have any sort of thought, we don’t know, but if she did, she certainly did not believe it. Continue reading

Hate Taking Tests?

Instant Alchemy Tip


Does taking tests feel out of control, dependent, at risk of failure?

Look closely: Does the pending test, which hasn’t happened, actually “make” you feel afraid, judged, and out of control–or are the fearful or frustrating thoughts *about* the test causing it? Continue reading

Nobody is Ever Rude

Discover how nobody is actually ever rude, and therefore
your whole experience and perspective can be turned around
from aggression to compassion and peace.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAHeading out for a walk with a friend, she started out in an exasperated state, complaining that Americans are rude. Then the story unfolds about how she went to an event with hundreds of people and was about to sit down when a woman came over and told her, “That’s Amanda’s seat!”

My friend continued, “She was so rude! And it was how she said it, with that tone of voice.” Now this friend has known me long enough to know something about my perspective, and she was not particularly surprised to hear me say, “No-one is ever rude to you,” but she was resistant.

But what if they ARE being rude?! She said emphatically. Continue reading

Do Relationships Become Stagnant After Two Years?


What a dangerous statement. (Sheesh I wonder what happens after 20 years? Do relationships mould and rot in a stench? If that were true, why would anyone stay together? It’d be… “Oh, it’s two years plus one day… time to part.”)

That’s like saying life becomes stagnant after two years! There is no such thing as stagnancy. Everything is constantly changing. Even mind, which can stink with the idea of stagnancy, is always changing, moment to moment. Continue reading