How is Suffering Optional?

Pain is mandatory suffering is optional – The Mechanics

Pain is a function of the body, to guide you away from something not beneficial, like a hot stove. Keeping your hand on the stove will keep hurting. Once the body has been hurt, it will continue to hurt until you remove the source, and give it rest long enough to heal. That is not optional.
The pain of suffering guides your attention away from thinking that is painful and not beneficial. Keeping your attention on the pain will keep it hurting. Emotional pain stops the moment you move away from it, when you move toward something better feeling. That is optional. (Or just don’t even create it.)
Any feeling, thought, or belief …

What happened to the Author

What happened to the Author

It was during intense suffering that amazing and eternal joy came to me, and by practicing The Alchemy of Love and Joy™, you don’t need to suffer again.
My father suffered severe depression, and shot himself. There was intense suffering, his, our families’, and mine. It was my promise to him that this “would not be for nothing.”
That was six or seven years ago. What I found last April was far beyond what I could have imagined.
It was like I backed myself into a corner. I loved someone more than my “self,” (truly, I loved love more than my “self”), and I refused to blame anyone or anything outside of myself for the pain and suffering I …

Does suffering serve a purpose?

Does suffering serve a purpose?
Suffering causes you mental and physical anxiety, raises your blood pressure, makes your heart work harder than it needs to, triggers inappropriate and extended adrenaline production, exhausts you, negatively effects the chemistry of the mind, drives you to behave in ways you may regret, and can lead to depression. Suffering strains the body and causes illness. Suffering spreads energetically to other people. It could be called the worst disease, perhaps even the cause of all disease.
Does suffering serve a purpose? Yes…
The only purpose for suffering is to make you aware of where you are putting your attention, and to point you toward peace and joy.
(related article: Pain is mandatory, suffering is optional)
The only purpose for …

A Glimpse into Joyful Living

There were really two main reasons to creating this blog website, one so that readers can have their say and leave comments about the book and share their experiences with their practice.
The other was so that I have an outlet to share my everyday experience as the joy within that I am emerges. Although words can never capture reality, I will attempt to share, to put into words my experience and to use words to point toward joy, which is what the practice does.
This is all still new to me also, and I recognize the value of my shifting experience for others, so I look forward to sharing as best I can my (sometimes ecstatic) experiences as they arise …

Pain is mandatory, suffering is optional

“Pain is mandatory, suffering is optional.” ~ Dalai Lama

“Pain is mandatory suffering is optional” is often quoted, and it sounds reasonable, but how is that so? How is it lived? Pain, like physical bodily pain, is part of life. Emotional suffering, for psychological “reasons” or in addition to physical pain, is a practice, a habit that can be changed.
These are the mechanics of how pain is mandatory suffering is optional.
Suffering is something done habitually, something that has been handed-down, inherited through the ignorance of simply not knowing anything else to do. It had become so deeply ingrained as to become beliefs, or worse, part of your identity (also a belief). You know it’s gone this far when you hear things …

Be Happy for No Reason

Be Happy for No Reason
You don’t need a reason to be happy—and even with a “reason” to be unhappy, you can be happy!
by C. Teevens
I was driving down the road, and the thought, the memory, that a client owes me a lot of money came to mind. Then some negative feeling tried to bubble-up.
When The Alchemy of Love and Joy™ came to me May 2009, I was compelled to drop everything else and only do this, and when I did so, my income dropped as well. My life turned-on-a-dime. So I could really “justify” the anxiety and fear that tried to arise, and the frustration and anger that could have also followed. But instead, I began the practice.
“What do I …