You cannot feel someones love

You cannot feel someone’s love
This morning I woke with a dream in memory, and noticed a feeling that is not my norm, not joyful. I dreamt of someone who I’d like in my life giving attention to someone else. Immediately I began The Alchemy of Love and Joy™ practice…
1) “What do I want?”
Hmmm… this took a moment or two as the dream fog cleared…and then it came:
“I wanted to feel that person’s love.”
2) “How does that person’s love feel?”
As I reached for the feeling, wonderful images, smiles, and loving memories flashed, and a warm, tingly sensation began to flow through my body.
3) “Is this what I prefer to feel?”
Yessssssss hehe.
4) “Feeling this way, how do I act?”
I reflected on the …

Feel Fantastic in the Face of Adversity, and Nothing Can Ever Hurt You Again

Feel fantastic in the face of adversity,
and nothing can ever hurt you again
When you come face-to-face with feeling joy at the same time as seeing, hearing, or knowing something “bad” outside you, and if you refuse to deny that you are in fact feeling joy, and you accept it as true in your experience, then it will profoundly change your life forever.
It will disconnect you from the belief that you need anything in order to feel good. It disconnects you from the belief that anything can make you feel bad. It disconnects you from the attachment to these thoughts. You will then know without doubt that how you feel has nothing to do with what is going-on around you. Every …

The true story of suffering that led to joy

This is the true story of suffering that led to The Alchemy of Love and Joy™, a simple practice anyone can do that will create a life full of constant joy.

“Massive grief overwhelmed me as I curled into a sobbing ball, and intense wave after wave of pain and suffering racked through my shaking body. A voice not my own welled-up, and wailed-out from some unknown place within. My poor father, unable to bear his hellish burden any more, had shot himself.”

Come to life in ecstasy

Come to life in ecstasy
Good news—and more good news! Your experience has been dulled-over by thoughts and beliefs about how it “is.”  You are capable of experiencing so much greater sensual and joyful heights.
How good something can feel, how vibrant something looks, how flavourful something tastes, how fantastic something sounds, how ecstatic intimacy can be, and even how your body feels just being alive! The Alchemy of Love and Joy™ awakens all the senses and enhances your experience of life.
It’s the tendency to label—it’s thought that distances you from your life. You then experience the label, not life. In The Alchemy of Love and Joy™, the intense practice of just feeling brings you to life.
Practice allowing. Believe the senses (whether …

There are no problems

There are no problems
After The Alchemy of Love and Joy™ came to me, I could so clearly see where I “went wrong” in relationships, or better put, where I could have done better. Of course, we always do the best we can with what we have, so I could not have done better. Yet at the time, I was conscious of not wanting to respond in the ways I did, of wanting a different outcome, however I was not in the state I needed to be in. I sensed that if I could be so radically different, so opposite, that things would be so opposite. But I did not know how. When you are feeling bad, or separate, or distanced, …

How is Suffering Optional?

Pain is mandatory suffering is optional – The Mechanics

Pain is a function of the body, to guide you away from something not beneficial, like a hot stove. Keeping your hand on the stove will keep hurting. Once the body has been hurt, it will continue to hurt until you remove the source, and give it rest long enough to heal. That is not optional.
The pain of suffering guides your attention away from thinking that is painful and not beneficial. Keeping your attention on the pain will keep it hurting. Emotional pain stops the moment you move away from it, when you move toward something better feeling. That is optional. (Or just don’t even create it.)
Any feeling, thought, or belief …

What happened to the Author

What happened to the Author

It was during intense suffering that amazing and eternal joy came to me, and by practicing The Alchemy of Love and Joy™, you don’t need to suffer again.
My father suffered severe depression, and shot himself. There was intense suffering, his, our families’, and mine. It was my promise to him that this “would not be for nothing.”
That was six or seven years ago. What I found last April was far beyond what I could have imagined.
It was like I backed myself into a corner. I loved someone more than my “self,” (truly, I loved love more than my “self”), and I refused to blame anyone or anything outside of myself for the pain and suffering I …

Does suffering serve a purpose?

Does suffering serve a purpose?
Suffering causes you mental and physical anxiety, raises your blood pressure, makes your heart work harder than it needs to, triggers inappropriate and extended adrenaline production, exhausts you, negatively effects the chemistry of the mind, drives you to behave in ways you may regret, and can lead to depression. Suffering strains the body and causes illness. Suffering spreads energetically to other people. It could be called the worst disease, perhaps even the cause of all disease.
Does suffering serve a purpose? Yes…
The only purpose for suffering is to make you aware of where you are putting your attention, and to point you toward peace and joy.
(related article: Pain is mandatory, suffering is optional)
The only purpose for …

A Glimpse into Joyful Living

There were really two main reasons to creating this blog website, one so that readers can have their say and leave comments about the book and share their experiences with their practice.
The other was so that I have an outlet to share my everyday experience as the joy within that I am emerges. Although words can never capture reality, I will attempt to share, to put into words my experience and to use words to point toward joy, which is what the practice does.
This is all still new to me also, and I recognize the value of my shifting experience for others, so I look forward to sharing as best I can my (sometimes ecstatic) experiences as they arise …

Pain is mandatory, suffering is optional

“Pain is mandatory, suffering is optional.” ~ Dalai Lama

“Pain is mandatory suffering is optional” is often quoted, and it sounds reasonable, but how is that so? How is it lived? Pain, like physical bodily pain, is part of life. Emotional suffering, for psychological “reasons” or in addition to physical pain, is a practice, a habit that can be changed.
These are the mechanics of how pain is mandatory suffering is optional.
Suffering is something done habitually, something that has been handed-down, inherited through the ignorance of simply not knowing anything else to do. It had become so deeply ingrained as to become beliefs, or worse, part of your identity (also a belief). You know it’s gone this far when you hear things …