“I know” is the evil eye

When you say “I know…” something about someone, you are giving them the evil eye, a.k.a. the ego eye, or the ego “i.”

What we are actually saying when we say this, is “I know a memory I have about something that (I perceive) happened in the past.” When you claim to know someone’s thoughts, feeling, or purpose, you are doing what in NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) is called “mind reading.” The factual truth is, unless someone tells you their experience, thought, or purpose–you don’t know. Continue reading

A love letter

A Love Letter

To you, who strives to be the beautiful being that you already are. For every time you see a flaw, I will mirror back your perfection. For every bad thought you believed, which hurt you, but which you suppressed in your quest for perfection; with every fear, I will stand beside you and walk through it with you.

Every time you get lost and you believe it, I stand clear and ready, available to walk the path with you all the way home. In every challenge, outer and inner, I am there. No matter what passion or aggression drives you, I will stand by, waiting, knowing; knowing that it is a passing cloud in front of your beautiful eyes.

Even when you are hurting and you lash out, I stand here, steadfast, and know its source as deep love swelling intensely. All it wants is to express its true self. And you will find a way.

Even in your anger my tender heart cracks open because I know you are suffering…and it is my purest wish that you be free, and that you know the freedom that you are. I will not be moved except by compassion and love.

Every time you misunderstand, it’s ok, I remain here knowing there’s fear or pain behind it. My heart is tender, raw, open,  available to and allowing opening for expression. Because I know that beneath the pain is a vast love, waiting to be unleashed with your clarity of being.

Whenever you hurt and appear to strike I ask, “Could it be love?” And it is never pain or anger or fear–it is always love. Even if in your pain and suffering you try to leave me, hurt me, push me away…this is impossible.

There may be fear of unleashing your love as love, but know that that fear is unfounded, and that that love is the strongest, yet most gentle, nurturing force that itself cannot fail, and it is a power that wants to enter the world through you, as you.

You are ok. There’s nothing wrong with you. You’ve just inherited some thoughts, some beliefs and the most damaging thought, the biggest lie—that any thought or belief can define or limit you. But you have also inherited much more, much more that came with your very being, your very essence, you very aliveness; your very existence which is far, far beyond beliefs and thought.

That being, your endless beauty that I have seen is my inspiration, my knowing. That all is well, all has always been well, and all will always be well. It is through you I know eternity, because of you, through you, in you.

No matter what bad days or bad states arise, they are not you, and you are still there. You were there before, and you will be there after. I await you with full heart and open arms.

And every time you judged me, I saw through it to your suffering, and through that to your love, and my heart of compassion cracked open again. And every time you judged yourself, I saw through it. The only way you can judge yourself is by knowing your own divinity.

Know that you cannot fail; even a bad feeling is not failing. It’s succeeding just knowing it, when you recognize it, you are succeeding in knowing yourself now and what you want to create. Any little error or mistake is already gone, and what is revealed is your purity, your unstained essence beneath—and as you expand ever larger, so does your success. You’ve been a success since before you were born. You cannot fail, and even if you do not choose to see your success in this lifetime, you have eternal time.

Sweet being, the world is not doing things to you, it’s here for you, to show you how you are in the moment so that you can choose, choose to see and be, and thereby create your full magnificent self,  and to have the fullest experience through the fullest expression you are capable of. And when you see and you know the bigger you, the real you, and you turn toward it, you manifest your becoming of it.

My heart is so full of love it wells up as tears. There’s anticipation and excitement for your coming freedom when all that energy suddenly releases you to be and do what your heart aches for, and it will use all the suffering you went through to bring something blessed and beautiful to this world.

I have eternal, unshakable faith in you and eternal unshakable faith in the explosion of joy you will feel when you come to know me. It will be beyond words, but not tears.

You know the pain of suffering, the pain of fear, and you will know the infinite joy and bliss that is here for you.

I stand with open heart, present so we can both see that you and I are not the enemy so you can know there is nothing you need, you are it all. Whatever your heart desires is yours, any time. May you know that peace, that power; that freedom.

Every time you smiled at me with that gorgeous irresistible smile, you showed me love within me. Every time you laughed with me, you showed me love within me. Every time you embraced me, you showed me love within me. Every time you showed me your beauty, you showed me mine. I am so grateful for you. I embrace you fully as you are, completely as you are, in every moment, in any moment, in all moments. I embrace you with love that needs no forgiveness, love that has no condition, with a love that just is.

You are fully honoured and respected, being as magical and mystical as the universe itself. Without you, the universe would be incomplete; indeed it would not be. You are perfect as you were, as you are, and as you will be. I cherish and cradle your feelings, needs, hopes, wishes, and desires.

Even though you seek an answer from outside of you, I stand not as the answer, yet reflecting yourself back as the answer; an opportunity for you to see your perfection in your own divinity. I will stand here for you, silently, even in your darkest hour, reflecting the light so you can see clearly.

Leaves may fall, snow may fly, and flowers may flourish. Lovers may leave, time may lapse, and buildings may level. By your side, I remain. There is a place where we have not laughed all we’ll laugh, where we have not relaxed all we’ll relax, where we have not played all we will play.

I excitedly look forward to the day you release your self and come out and play.

Come out and play. Let it shine as it is. You know who you really are. I know who you really are.

Free from pain, free from struggle, what will you create? What will we do? Where will we go? So many roads, so many options, and vast potential within the endless beauty of the stillness we have created for us to enjoy—come with me, come, let’s play!

Here is a love so infinitely vast, that it is inconceivably beyond words. I could just sit with you and I do sit with you, silently, for hours basking in the greatest love the world has rarely known, yet it is available for all.

Anytime you want me, just go looking—seek me. Instantly, I am there. Because I never leave.

Who am I?

I am you.
The ever present witness, always with you, always available, always mirroring, always love.
I love you.

When We Suffer, We Can’t Know Truth

When We Suffer, We Can’t Know Truth

“What you fear appears,” is a powerful truth.

I have seen someone I love suffer about something they believed, which could not be more untrue; it was in fact in opposition to reality. At the peak of their suffering, even when provided with the truth and evidence against their belief, they still could not stop suffering. At first my old self-centric habit was to react with hurt and pain at the false judgments. However this gift was a wide-eye-opener, a direct seeing of delusion and suffering.

There was such incongruency with reality, that it just did not make any sense, and that helped me to drop the self and my suffering, and to become curious. I saw the extreme suffering that delusion caused in that person, who in their pain was unable to receive truth that could ease the suffering.  I thought, “If you only knew the truth, it would all be ok,” so I thought truth was the way, but it became apparent that while we are in a state of suffering, truth can’t be known even if it is glaring in your face. I could do nothing about it, and no matter how much I longed to give relief. I could not help. There was nothing I could do but watch love be destroyed through extreme delusion and suffering.

This cracked-open my heart of compassion, and is a large reason for my new work today. I have seen the delusion that suffering causes, and the suffering that delusion causes.

When we suffer, the hands clench, the body tenses, it crunches inward, the eyes may close, the breathing becomes shallow, limiting oxygen to the brain, and we physically and mentally withdraw from the rest of reality and focus single-mindedly on the “object” of our suffering. That is what suffering is. We suffer over one specific thing and can have no other experience. We shut-down our internal intelligence, and we withdraw from external intelligence.

Just because you are feeling the effects of a negative thought
does not mean the content of the thought is true.
It means you are feeling the effects of a negative thought.

In pain we cannot separately or objectively view what we believe is causing the pain in order to see clearly if it is even true. Yes, we can suffer over untruths. In fact, that is what we mostly suffer over. When we fear something we can believe that we see, know, hear, or feel it. We can actually create it, in our beliefs, whether it is there or not. And then we suffer, and take that as evidence it is true.

Most of the time, our suffering is about our fears, and not about what is. Of course, even if it is “true,” even if it is “what is,” we still do not have to cause ourselves to suffer. So there are layers and depths of suffering we can sink into.

Just like feeling hurt, abandoned, or judged, feeling anger also makes us, our experience, our access to information, our clarity, and our intelligence tiny. You are literally blind in anger or rage. Not only your mind, but your awareness of your body and senses shut-down during suffering. I have seen such a severe state of this form of suffering  that the person did not even realize they were staring piercingly, and so did not have other options of behaviour available. Suffering in any form cuts-off access to your resourcefulness in every way.

Clear the bad feeling first by doing the practice and creating a better feeling, so that you can open to intelligence and clearly see what is, and what is not. Face the “adversity” with the good feeling to blow-out the belief you had that any thing can hurt you, and then, feeling good, say yes mentally and energetically to what is.

This is a third aspect to the freedom I have found, and it is what both Eckhart Tolle and Byron Katie teach. It is acceptance of what is, acceptance of the now. Even though someone can switch from suffering to joy, there is still yet a deeper release, one could say past feeling and into being, presence, existence.

When I do this, fully accepting what is, what is and I come together, into alignment with each other, come back together, become One as the reality that was already always the case. There is non-resistance, no more attempt at separation, which is stressful. There is non-separation. So far I do not yet have a word for this experience, and “a release” at a very deep level is the closest. Recognitions and understandings come with this–we truly know that there is nothing “bad.” Your painful movement inside that causes pain makes it so. Resistance of what is, denial of what is, is an attempt to constrict and contract from the moment. Since you are this moment, you are this experience, to deny any of it is to deny your very self, and that is painful.

The Alchemy of Love and Joy™ practice positions you to be able to accept what is. Then it becomes a matter of exchanging the illusion of and struggle for control, for the freedom from the outside controlling you, and inner peace. When you stop trying to control, you go with the flow and start manifesting. You step into where your true power lies.

There was nothing I could do, and while there is still nothing I can do (meaning the option, intention, and action to feel better and to love belongs only to each individual) at least the people who are aware they are suffering and want to stop have a practice to help them get there.

There is hope–I have connected with hundreds of people all over the world seeking their freedom and peace. Just at the conclusion of writing this article, I received a request for help in an impassioned song “Pretty Lady,” by Trooper. My heart is full of love and compassion. I will not stop seeking all the ways to point and show a way for all those who are wanting and seeking.