What is an appearance?

Things are not as they appear, but…what is an appearance?

When circling is not just circling…
On my walk today, a brisk, windy fall day, a glance upwards gifted me with something new: the sight of hundreds of seagulls flying around each other, high in the air. The first thought was

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Why Fighting to Feel Good Fails

In this free audio, Cindy and the Client discuss: Why Fighting to Feel Good Fails, What to do about troublesome thoughts, Where do thoughts come from? What is “space” around a thought? Not using your power of Interest. A non-relationship to thought, Doing not doing. The effortlessness of Being. Your Power of Discernment. How thoughts downward cycle…and more!

Hate Taking Tests?

Instant Alchemy Tip

Does taking tests feel out of control, dependent, at risk of failure?
Look closely: Does the pending test, which hasn’t happened, actually “make” you feel afraid, judged, and out of control–or are the fearful or frustrating thoughts *about* the test causing it?

Nobody is Ever Rude

“She was so rude! And it was how she said it, with that tone of voice.” Now this friend has known me long enough to know something about my perspective, and she was not particularly surprised to hear me say, “No-one is ever rude to you,” but she was resistant.

Do Thoughts Make You Suffer?

No. Thoughts are powerless, harmless, in and of themselves. Left along they can come and go because they only have a momentary existence, and no reality.
Thoughts are powerless
The brain’s job is to offer you thoughts, as options, not as mandatory, and it does a brilliant job of that, automatically churning out 40,000 thoughts a day, it is said. But you don’t believe them all, nor are you even aware of them all. So thoughts cannot “make” you suffer. Only when you

“I know” is the evil eye

What we are actually saying when we say this, is “I know a memory I have about something that (I perceive) happened in the past.” When you claim to know someone’s thoughts, feeling, or purpose, you are doing what in NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) is called “mind reading.” The factual truth is, unless someone tells you their experience, thought, or purpose, you don’t know.

Creating a New You

The new age movement is awash with ideas of creating a new you. Words like growing, learning, expanding, creating, and co-creating are all the rage. But there’s something very shallow about creating something that can be re-created again and again. It points to the non-reality of it all.