Don’t just fill your cup–realize it is bottomless After an Alchemy of Love and Joy™ session, people leave feeling happy and peaceful. The other day a client called to make an appointment “I really need it,” she said. That, along with some other readers’ comments like, “I read your book when I need a tune-up,” and “it picks me up when I feel down,” brought to my attention the need for more emphasis on how the practice can help you realize your innate freedom, permanently. You don’t need the book. That is an outside thing. You don’t need a session to “tune-up,” to “recharge your battery,” or to “fill your cup” or your “tank.” Your intention for doing the work …
Tempted to sit in the park like Tolle
AUG 2009 –am I enlightened? When I go into a “Feel-Good-Fest,” not unlike lovers who cuddle (though I am my lover), sometimes the specific thing I want and give myself grows into such a beautiful, glowing, overall state of love, connection, peace, joy, and well-being that it seems I could just float in it forever, that is, if there was such a thing as time. One day during this, I thought of Ekhart Tolle’s experience of sitting on a park bench for years. Yes, I could see how someone could do that. The draw to go inside and explore all that we are capable of is there. Now I know that entering into and exploring the great mystery is an …
Funeral Rites, and Rights
Funeral Rites, and Rights As I approached the church, there was love and peace was flowing from heart, along with connection and good thoughts of my friend. Very quickly however, thoughts like “Maybe I should not be smiling so much here,” arose, and I began to contain it, and began to slip-out of the Now. Old mind began to arise as the casket was wheeled in. It was definitely a familiar feeling dredged-up from past sufferings at funerals. Yet the watching consciousness knew this was an old habit, and began to bring me back into the present, until I saw her son, and the old mind, which had been given some space to exist said “He must have had a …
When We Suffer, We Can’t Know Truth
When We Suffer, We Can’t Know Truth “What you fear appears,” is a powerful truth. I have seen someone I love suffer about something they believed, which could not be more untrue; it was in fact in opposition to reality. At the peak of their suffering, even when provided with the truth and evidence against their belief, they still could not stop suffering. At first my old self-centric habit was to react with hurt and pain at the false judgments. However this gift was a wide-eye-opener, a direct seeing of delusion and suffering. There was such incongruency with reality, that it just did not make any sense, and that helped me to drop the self and my suffering, and to …
Feel Fantastic in the Face of Adversity, and Nothing Can Ever Hurt You Again
Feel fantastic in the face of adversity, and nothing can ever hurt you again When you come face-to-face with feeling joy at the same time as seeing, hearing, or knowing something “bad” outside you, and if you refuse to deny that you are in fact feeling joy, and you accept it as true in your experience, then it will profoundly change your life forever. It will disconnect you from the belief that you need anything in order to feel good. It disconnects you from the belief that anything can make you feel bad. It disconnects you from the attachment to these thoughts. You will then know without doubt that how you feel has nothing to do with what is going-on …
The true story of suffering that led to joy
This is the true story of suffering that led to The Alchemy of Love and Joy™, a simple practice anyone can do that will create a life full of constant joy.
“Massive grief overwhelmed me as I curled into a sobbing ball, and intense wave after wave of pain and suffering racked through my shaking body. A voice not my own welled-up, and wailed-out from some unknown place within. My poor father, unable to bear his hellish burden any more, had shot himself.”
There are no problems
There are no problems After The Alchemy of Love and Joy™ came to me, I could so clearly see where I “went wrong” in relationships, or better put, where I could have done better. Of course, we always do the best we can with what we have, so I could not have done better. Yet at the time, I was conscious of not wanting to respond in the ways I did, of wanting a different outcome, however I was not in the state I needed to be in. I sensed that if I could be so radically different, so opposite, that things would be so opposite. But I did not know how. When you are feeling bad, or separate, or …
How is Suffering Optional?
Pain is mandatory suffering is optional – The Mechanics Pain is a function of the body, to guide you away from something not beneficial, like a hot stove. Keeping your hand on the stove will keep hurting. Once the body has been hurt, it will continue to hurt until you remove the source, and give it rest long enough to heal. That is not optional. The pain of suffering guides your attention away from thinking that is painful and not beneficial. Keeping your attention on the pain will keep it hurting. Emotional pain stops the moment you move away from it, when you move toward something better feeling. That is optional. (Or just don’t even create it.) Any feeling, thought, …
Does suffering serve a purpose?
Does suffering serve a purpose? Suffering causes you mental and physical anxiety, raises your blood pressure, makes your heart work harder than it needs to, triggers inappropriate and extended adrenaline production, exhausts you, negatively effects the chemistry of the mind, drives you to behave in ways you may regret, and can lead to depression. Suffering strains the body and causes illness. Suffering spreads energetically to other people. It could be called the worst disease, perhaps even the cause of all disease. Does suffering serve a purpose? Yes… The only purpose for suffering is to make you aware of where you are putting your attention, and to point you toward peace and joy. (related article: Pain is mandatory, suffering is optional) …
Pain is mandatory, suffering is optional
“Pain is mandatory, suffering is optional.” ~ Dalai Lama “Pain is mandatory suffering is optional” is often quoted, and it sounds reasonable, but how is that so? How is it lived? Pain, like physical bodily pain, is part of life. Emotional suffering, for psychological “reasons” or in addition to physical pain, is a practice, a habit that can be changed. These are the mechanics of how pain is mandatory suffering is optional. Suffering is something done habitually, something that has been handed-down, inherited through the ignorance of simply not knowing anything else to do. It had become so deeply ingrained as to become beliefs, or worse, part of your identity (also a belief). You know it’s gone this far when …