“I think that…I’m unsure of what their actions actually were…and more…concerned with where my mind was going with the situation…not necessarily…I didn’t know if they were being dishonest or not I just know how I felt at the time, or what I was thinking at the time.” That is a big thing to realize because we never actually suffer as a direct result of what somebody does or says, we suffer about our beliefs about what they did or said. I really suggest you download the book because it talks a lot about mind reads. Mind reads are claiming to know what someone else’s intentions (or state) were. If you love this person, and if you what to have true open honesty and pure love with them, then when you notice a mind read, a bade feeling mind read, in your mind–its coming from you don’t forget, its not coming from them–ok?
Is Happiness in Your Genes?
Before I discovered the inner source of joy, my level of happiness was extremely low for a few months, and then in a flash, it shot up for many months and later leveled-off somewhere higher than my “normal.” Could the genes have somehow dramatically changed? Supposedly, as the unchanging, inherited “cause” of happiness, they cannot.
I Wanted Him to Say He’s Sorry
I Wanted Him to Say He’s Sorry [audio:http://AlchemyLoveJoy.com/wp-content/uploads/2012-03-20_16-15-17_32_bps.mp3]
Happiness is Within – But What Does that Mean?
When people do think or say the words “Happiness is within,” most are just giving it “lip service.” For those people, it is just a nice theoretical thought they drop when it suits them – usually while counseling others. They say it just because it sounds good, and they generally only say it when things are going well. Few say and uphold it when things go awry.
Dealing with Being Dumped in a Relationship
Alchemy Session Audio Recording [24:02 min] [audio:https://alchemylovejoy.com/Wants_Relationship_32.mp3] Listen in on the conversation as Cindy walks a participant through the practice of Alchemy. Notice that Cindy asks the questions in the now, and the participant tends to answer in the past until she has shifted state. Here are some transcribed excerpts: [Cindy] “We don’t want things, people, or events, we want the feeling we mistake them for. If you have the relationship and you didn’t have a good feeling, would you want the relationship?” [Participant] “No.” [Cindy] “How does being in relationship feel? How does being full, appreciated, honoured, loved, validated, and unconditionally accepted feel? [Participant] “It feels foreign.” Bonus Recording The After Effects of Alchemy [12:55 min] [audio:https://alchemylovejoy.com/After_Effects_Alchemy_32.mp3] Listen to …
What if you didn’t need someone to be happy?
Would you make better choices in a partner? How much more free and loving could you then be in a relationship? Some people are so shocked by the idea of not needing someone that they ask, “But, then what would a relationship be for?” Such a response reveals how deeply their conditioning goes. Both my generation and the current generation have been raised in a “romantic era” that is more accurately called an “attachment era.” The majority of our movies and music proclaim a love that needs the other, and that idea is portrayed as a good, romantic thing. Perhaps it comes from the fear of losing someone and therefore needing them to be your “only one” and “forever.”
Mind the Gap – You are Before Thinking
The water splashed over the edge of the bucket and pooled out on the bathroom floor, running under the door.
I looked down at the puddle and a moment later heard the thought “water spilled on the floor.”
The obvious time delay in that thought arising was almost shocking, and I chuckled at the redundant comment from the “peanut gallery.” Years ago I never even noticed the delay. Today, in this moment, it was never so obvious that thought comes after experience—and quite some time after!
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