Don’t just fill your cup–realize it is bottomless

Don’t just fill your cup–realize it is bottomless After an Alchemy of Love and Joy™ session, people leave feeling happy and peaceful. The other day a client called to make an appointment “I really need it,” she said. That, along with some other readers’ comments like, “I read your book when I need a tune-up,” and “it picks me up when I feel down,” brought to my attention the need for more emphasis on how the practice can help you realize your innate freedom, permanently. You don’t need the book. That is an outside thing. You don’t need a session to “tune-up,” to “recharge your battery,” or to “fill your cup” or your “tank.” Your intention for doing the work …

Funeral Rites, and Rights

Funeral Rites, and Rights As I approached the church, there was love and peace was flowing from heart, along with connection and good thoughts of my friend. Very quickly however, thoughts like “Maybe I should not be smiling so much here,” arose, and I began to contain it, and began to slip-out of the Now. Old mind began to arise as the casket was wheeled in. It was definitely a familiar feeling dredged-up from past sufferings at funerals. Yet the watching consciousness knew this was an old habit, and began to bring me back into the present, until I saw her son, and the old mind, which had been given some space to exist said “He must have had a …

Creating, receiving, and allowing feeling are the same

That came to me in the midst of creating very deep relaxation and peace this morning before getting out of bed. It is an overall glowing feeling of well-being throughout. As I created it, I noticed that I was receiving it, and in receiving it, I noticed I was allowing it. When allowing it you lose the sense “you” are doing it. There is simply experience. There is no you, no separation, and the peace deepens and expands yet more. There is just indescribable stillness and peace. What satisfaction knowing I am fully complete; there is nothing that I want. (If there were, I would just give it to myself.)

Waking Joy at a Wake

Waking Joy at a Wake The wake today was an experience unlike any other.  Of course they all are; every moment is, because this moment has never happened before. Yet old mind habitual response can make things seem the same. Today, approaching the closed casket, and looking into the bright, sparking, and kind eyes in the photo of my deceased friend, for a moment joy began to arise, then I watched as it was quickly shut-down by a thought like, “yeah but you can’t feel that, that’s not her, she’s not here,” and I felt a familiar old suffering mind try to rise. The impulse was to look away and move away, however I stayed; stayed looking into those eyes …

When We Suffer, We Can’t Know Truth

When We Suffer, We Can’t Know Truth “What you fear appears,” is a powerful truth. I have seen someone I love suffer about something they believed, which could not be more untrue; it was in fact in opposition to reality. At the peak of their suffering, even when provided with the truth and evidence against their belief, they still could not stop suffering. At first my old self-centric habit was to react with hurt and pain at the false judgments. However this gift was a wide-eye-opener, a direct seeing of delusion and suffering. There was such incongruency with reality, that it just did not make any sense, and that helped me to drop the self and my suffering, and to …

Joy in Sickness

Joy in Sickness Last night, for the first time since learning how to awaken joy, I felt physically sick, and the phenomena was fascinating. It may have been the orange juice and iron pill that triggered the “pained feeling” in my stomach, which  became an overall feeling of sickness so quickly that I did not notice the switch–until I began the practice.  As I went inside to seek a better feeling, it was almost like the stomach pain separated from the sickness feeling. As the good feeling grew, the sickness feeling faded, disappeared, and then even the stomach pain felt far away. When I stopped practicing, the sickness feeling returned! So I continued feeling good (while noticing the distant “pain”), …

Love, Peace, and Joy in Death

Love, Peace, and Joy in Death This morning, I received the news that someone close to me has passed away. This is the first death in my experience since The Alchemy of Love and Joy™ came to me. We first met at her son’s funeral (he is listed on my Gratitude page), and her steady presence, surprising humour, and positive outlook at the funeral impacted me; I was almost shocked to learn she was his mother. We became fast friends, taking each other out to lunches and dinners.  I considered her family. The news came via email… and my first response was a surprised “Oh,” and I waited to see what would arise next, watching for sadness and preparing to …

Ecstatic Errand-Running Mind

Ecstatic Errand-Running Mind I had an errand to run today, and the far-away echo of an old mind was noticed, “Do I have to go all the way there…!?” and I chuckled, just before going into my body and reaching for joy. Feeling my breath and the whole of my body simultaneously, immediately I felt expansion as a smile grew across my face. Going outside and feeling the pleasure of the wind on my skin and the energy of the sun, my senses came alive to every touch, site, and sound. I noticed the sun rays beaming down to earth and then thoughts of howbeautiful the world is were followed by a tingling down my body. As I approached the …

We don’t want things, people or events. We want the feeling we mistake them for.

We don’t want things, people or events. We want the feeling we mistake them for. –and you can have it any time.   That was a key message offered and received at the The Alchemy of Love and Joy™ talk held in Ottawa in August 2009. We cause how we feel, and we can choose and cause how we want to feel no matter what is going-on around us, if we practice The Alchemy of Love and Joy™. If you use suffering to point you toward joy, to consciously seek joy in the face of adversity, you can blow-out the belief that has held you captive all your life; the belief that outside things can hurt you or make you …

You cannot feel someones love

You cannot feel someone’s love This morning I woke with a dream in memory, and noticed a feeling that is not my norm, not joyful. I dreamt of someone who I’d like in my life giving attention to someone else. Immediately I began The Alchemy of Love and Joy™ practice… 1) “What do I want?” Hmmm… this took a moment or two as the dream fog cleared…and then it came: “I wanted to feel that person’s love.” 2) “How does that person’s love feel?” As I reached for the feeling, wonderful images, smiles, and loving memories flashed, and a warm, tingly sensation began to flow through my body. 3) “Is this what I prefer to feel?” Yessssssss hehe. 4) “Feeling …