Feel fantastic in the face of adversity,
and nothing can ever hurt you again
When you come face-to-face with feeling joy at the same time as seeing, hearing, or knowing something “bad” outside you, and if you refuse to deny that you are in fact feeling joy, and you accept it as true in your experience, then it will profoundly change your life forever.
It will disconnect you from the belief that you need anything in order to feel good. It disconnects you from the belief that anything can make you feel bad. It disconnects you from the attachment to these thoughts. You will then know without doubt that how you feel has nothing to do with what is going-on around you. Every opportunity after that to practice again and again in adversity will re-affirm this truth in your belief and experience, and you will come to know and step-into your true power.
Feeling good does not mean you accept something unwanted “outside” you, or that you don’t or won’t do something to change it. It means you become so much more powerful to change it. It means you are using your full intelligence to know if and what to change. It means you expect it to change to match your reality, your joy.
Free yourself from the belief that outside things have control over you. Otherwise, you are tethered.
This is not a denial of what is going on; what is, is. You face the outside adversity, and simultaneously seek a better feeling, by giving yourself what you want. There is no adversity inside, and what is inside does not change; it will always be there available to you, and you will always want to give yourself what you want. That is how joy is eternal.
It turns your world around
I used to believe “When I have this, I’ll be happy.” The reason I used to struggle so much is because we need to be happy FIRST to get what we want, not the other way around.
How you feel is critical to whether or not you are motivated, to whether or not you can see the whole picture, to whether or not you take resourceful action, to whether or not you are hurting yourself, and to whether or not you will hurt someone else. So the old belief of “have first to be” stands in opposition to the whole of reality. No wonder it does not work. No wonder it hurts to try. You must feel good first. And you can.
If you notice thoughts like “I have a hard time feeling good…” or anything else that would keep you from feeling better, just drop and ignore it; it is an excuse that can keep you from feeling good, if you believe and buy-into it. You can have and hold excuses, and suffering—or you can have joy. Because, again, it is just a thought…
Thoughts are also “outside” things that are known (they are not things that are you!), thoughts cannot keep you from feeling better. Thoughts are not feelings. No thought can stop you from seeking a better feeling. Drop them all, want to feel better more than anything, and persist with the only two thoughts that will help get you there—the last two thoughts before you begin to feel better: “What do I want? How does what I want feel?”
The second question in The Alchemy of Love and Joy™ practice: “How does what you want feel?” is the most critical to this breakthrough; you must tap-into, build, and enjoy the joy so much that it will be glaring in your face and as large or larger than the thought about the adversity. That way it will be impossible to deny the reality of the joy. And if you used to think you had to feel bad, you will no longer be able to believe that.
When you go inside to answer that question, to feel what you want, first look for relief, and enjoy it. Then search for the next best feeling and take time enjoying that feeling. Then seek a better one, and thoroughly enjoy that. In this way, you build to joy. With practice, it gets faster and faster, easier and easier. As you are enjoying, your whole perspective on the situation will change, more information will come, and your thoughts will shift into good-feeling ones. Now you are ready to deal with the outside.
When you know you can feel good any time, even in the face of adversity, then you become fearless in the face of adversity–you can do anything!
PS– And then a funny thing happens; “adversities” are no longer your reality.
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