When people do think or say the words “Happiness is within,” most are just giving it “lip service.” For those people, it is just a nice theoretical thought they drop when it suits them – usually while counseling others. They say it just because it sounds good, and they generally only say it when things are going well. Few say and uphold it when things go awry.
What if you didn’t need someone to be happy?
Would you make better choices in a partner? How much more free and loving could you then be in a relationship? Some people are so shocked by the idea of not needing someone that they ask, “But, then what would a relationship be for?” Such a response reveals how deeply their conditioning goes. Both my generation and the current generation have been raised in a “romantic era” that is more accurately called an “attachment era.” The majority of our movies and music proclaim a love that needs the other, and that idea is portrayed as a good, romantic thing. Perhaps it comes from the fear of losing someone and therefore needing them to be your “only one” and “forever.”
One habit (which most people have) that leads to depression
Depression and anxiety are becoming epidemic. Statistics on Depression: • One in ten U.S. adults report depression. (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, CDC, 2008)