Dealing with Being Dumped in a Relationship

Alchemy Session Audio Recording [24:02 min] [audio:https://alchemylovejoy.com/Wants_Relationship_32.mp3] Listen in on the conversation as Cindy walks a participant through the practice of Alchemy. Notice that Cindy asks the questions in the now, and the participant tends to answer in the past until she has shifted state. Here are some transcribed excerpts: [Cindy] “We don’t want things, people, or events, we want the feeling we mistake them for. If you have the relationship and you didn’t have a good feeling, would you want the relationship?” [Participant] “No.” [Cindy] “How does being in relationship feel? How does being full, appreciated, honoured, loved, validated, and unconditionally accepted feel? [Participant] “It feels foreign.” Bonus Recording The After Effects of Alchemy [12:55 min] [audio:https://alchemylovejoy.com/After_Effects_Alchemy_32.mp3] Listen to …

What if you didn’t need someone to be happy?

Would you make better choices in a partner? How much more free and loving could you then be in a relationship? Some people are so shocked by the idea of not needing someone that they ask, “But, then what would a relationship be for?” Such a response reveals how deeply their conditioning goes. Both my generation and the current generation have been raised in a “romantic era” that is more accurately called an “attachment era.” The majority of our movies and music proclaim a love that needs the other, and that idea is portrayed as a good, romantic thing. Perhaps it comes from the fear of losing someone and therefore needing them to be your “only one” and “forever.”

Burning Bridges

I thought of recent conversations with colleagues about the “tipping point” or “turning point” where, when a decision is made, it’s over and there’s no turning back. We’ve been trying to grasp what exactly that is; it seems to be a decision, but perhaps it is more than that…